Shame & guilt come around in cycles and they are a heavy burden to carry. Its damaging effects will eat at your self worth and belonging. Running away from guilt and shame will inevitably lead to the emotions following you, and although it may seem hard to face, catching those thoughts and transmuting the energy will always be your better option.
If you can have compassion and empathy for yourself, then it's a good place to start. If you ignore it, the pain will intensify next time. Surrender to Karma, it doesn't stop until you figure out what it is you need to learn.
Energy cannot be stopped, it has a continuous flow, what goes around comes around, but with a little focus, you can transmute it! Have mercy on yourself, give up on perfectionism because all beings have some sort of shame. If others try to put shame on you, then they are simply ignoring their own.
We will only end these cycles by showing mercy, compassion and empathy towards ourselves and others!